Gossip with the girls but men only have four subjects

Aug 12, 2017 08:04 pm

Gossip with the girls but men only have four subjects

Gossip is a woman's forte and usually packed with so much trivia, it's simply not worth bothering about.
That, at least, is what many men have believed for a long time as they despair of the time their wives and partners spend chatting on the phone or in the shops.

But research suggests the topics women talk about to each other are far from frivolous.
Instead of merely small talk, their conversations embrace 40 subjects, ranging from health to house prices, politics to pregnancy, and childcare to clothes.

Details of the offside law in football were, however, notable by their absence.

Men, meanwhile, tend to stick to just four subjects when talking to other men: work, sport, jokes - and women.
The truth emerged in a poll of 1,000 women who said they don't dwell on boyfriends or husbands simply because they believe there are better things to chat about.

Three in four said they were more likely to discuss their friends and family with other women than talk about their men.
Professor Petra Boynton, a psychologist at University College London, said: 'What is particularly interesting is that contrary to their own opinions of women, men are the ones resorting to small talk.

'Women, meanwhile, simply cannot limit themselves to less than ten conversational topics.'
She said the research showed a shift in the power of the sexes.

Women are adept at leaping from subject to subject but men's brains are unable to cope with more than just a handful of topics at one time.

'Just like their attitudes to work and home, women are multitasking in their conversations, something men cannot do,' said Professor Boynton.

She came up with her conclusions after analysing the research commissioned by drinks brand Archers Aqua.
However, despite being so good at it, most women said conversation was not the main focus of a girls' night out.
They also use gossip to solve problems and reduce stress while men chat to have a laugh or swap opinions while out with the boys.

The findings are backed by neurologists, who believe men's brains are more rigidly compartmentalised than women's.
The difference is an asset when it comes to putting personal matters aside and concentrating on work. But it puts them at a disadvantage when it comes to juggling several tasks.

Men are also less well-equipped to talk through personal problems as their emotions are dealt with by the primitive part of the brain, which deals with the desire to fight or run away.

Women's emotions, however, are handled by the higher cerebral cortex, which allows them to translate feelings into language. The female flair for gossip is fosteredat an early age. Girls learn to speak before boys because they have a more efficient brain organisation for speech.

By the age of three, 99 per cent of the speech of girls is comprehensible. Boys, on average, take a year longer to reach the same level.

The topics favoured by women are: sex, marriage, family, friends, men, relationship problems, childcare, clothes, hair, make-up, shopping, sport, films, TV, celebrities, food, holidays, travel and books.

They also enjoy chatting about music, clubs, politics, social problems, life, moral dilemmas, global issues, weight, size, diets, gynaecological issues, contraception, giving birth, bodily functions, body image, money, home, moving house, work, local news and supporting each other.



The British experts have conducted a new study, the results of which allowed calculating how much time women spend every day discussing other people.

As it turned out, a typical lady spends nearly a third of her wake time gossiping – 298 minutes per day which is equivalent to nearly five hours. In addition to the total amount of time that women devote to this occupation, the researchers have identified the most favorite topics for ladies to discuss.

Thus, it turns out that ladies spend about 24 minutes every day talking about their weight, diet and clothing sizes. One third of the participants of the study admit that they regularly discuss what they eat with friends and colleagues, and a quarter of all the respondents also exchange interesting recipes. As one of the leading authors of the study, Steve Barton, says, he and his colleagues did not expect food to be such a popular topic for women to discuss.

The weaker sex also likes to discuss makeup and various procedures, as well as the celebrities’ private life. Most often the women’s interlocutors are neighbors, shop assistants or even unknown women as, for example, in public transport. In addition, women eagerly talk about children, shopping, ways of spending a holiday, series, common acquaintances, and relationships. What is nice, the ladies very rarely complain about their own partners.


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